My name is Benny Howes. (crowd says… “Hi Benny”)
My life has been nothing short of “Miraculous” and I’m grateful for every challenge and hardship I’ve experienced in my short Life. I come to believe our Challenge is like a really well wrapped Christmas Gift, very secure under layers of tissue, wrapping paper and tape… lots of tape. The faster you try to open it, the tougher it seems… but if you’re patient, you’ll get through the layers and reach the brand new value pack of underwear Mom got you for Christmas… Patience child, Fruit of the Loom isn’t goin’ anywhere. Lol anyway… I hope by reading my story, you will see the value in your circumstances and find the inspiration to unwrap the gifts life has for you.
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In 1974, I was born in Bremerton, WA, placed into a foster home at 3 days old, then adopted at the age of 8 months. My mom was only 15 and my dad was 18. I’ve yet to meet them but I feel I will and the timing will be perfect. (I actually wrote this December 30th of 2010, I’ve since met my parents… read about my reunion here)
I was adopted, an only child and grew up in the ‘typical’ family structure. When I say typical, I mean it was filled with challenge and undiscovered opportunities to heal and move forward in life. In my house, the opportunities to heal were covered up by alcohol and repressed emotional pain. It wasn’t too different from many people I know. Others may simply call it a broken home, but it was all I knew… But I wanted to fix it. I loved my family and I never understood why no one really talked. It got tough.
I think if families don’t find the way to move forward, they move out instead. My parents split up when I was about 12. My Dad took a job transfer and moved about 5 hours away. I didn’t see him much but he did his best to come to my Sports events to show me support… He sure put some miles on that Nissan Sentra. That was his way of showing love. My Mom worked a lot, and didn’t really have enough energy for herself, let alone to for me. I have to commend her, for everything she had on her plate, she did good. I’m not mad anymore, how could I be? It’s just where we were.
As a young adult, found myself married with a family of my own, with absolutely NO CLUE how to make it work.
A little help here Please…God, anyone?
Starting in 2000, shortly after my youngest son Jordan was born. I had some experiences that made me take a look at my life much deeper. So I asked God to show me the “Truth”. I wanted real, unbiased, how does this world work, TRUTH.
I won’t say I made “quick” work of it though. First I had to ‘detox’ from so much of the programming I had mashed into my brain as a young person. It took about 8 years of research and life experiences for me to finally get out of my way and begin to “get it”. I really wanted to know though so I researched Religions, Philosophies, Politics, Athletics, Science, Medicine and Music. These topics have taught me more than any “formal” education ever could have. I probably only say that because I didn’t finish college. Just kiddin’.
In 2004, I got about as far away from my best life as I could, really far… check out the picture. And if you’re wondering, yes, one of my legs is shorter than the other. 😉
During my experience with Stage 4 Kidney Failure, I learned my first major “Truth”.
Those might be the Facts But, the Truth is, Any condition can change.
I’m only 5’7″ but, by my early thirties, I found my self at a whopping 233 pounds and was named the winner of failing Kidneys. I didn’t know I entered a contest, They told me I could choose between a lifetime of Dialysis or get on the transplant list. I believe I heard from God that day so I asked for a third option… Healing. They didn’t agree with me so I agreed to let them put me on the transplant list in case “I changed my mind”. Read about my AHA moment that led to my healing here.
Good Friday that Spring, my Hero of a wife Diana got the call from my ‘Kidney Doctor’… After thinking she may be actually killing me, My Doctor pronounced my Kidneys 100% Healed. My Doctor called us with the Good News on Good Friday in 2005. Boy was Diana Relieved.
I was the only patient in his 25 year career he had the pleasure telling “Your Kidneys are Healed”.
I wasn’t done transforming my body yet, Read about my other Physical Healings Here
Here were some of my “Facts” that ran my life… I’m not saying all of these are healed in my life yet, but some of these were ways I misunderstood my life experience. Things I believed…
- Life is Hard.
- Money is hard to come by.
- I’m not good enough for that.
- I’m not smart enough for that.
- They won’t pick me, I don’t have a college degree.
- I keep getting passed up for promotions at work.
- I’m on a Kidney transplant list.
- I have to sleep with a mask on my face so I can breath.
- I’m allergic to every meat except Beef, Pork and Trout… Have you ever tasted Trout?… Ugh.
- I don’t feel supported in what I want to do with my life.
- I’m not a good dad or husband.
These weren’t actually “TRUE” but, I truly believed these things… and since I believed it, I experienced those beliefs in my reality. I know there are many people with similar
“Facts of Life”.
I dropped 60 pounds and kept it off since May 2010 – 30 pounds were simply from changing how I looked at Life…I was 233 pounds of pure anger, sadness and insecurity.
I healed from Sleep Apnea – I don’t miss sleeping with a mask on my face and sounding like “Darth Vader all night.
I healed from 30 years of numerous food allergies – I can eat anything now, and I pretty much do.
Through understanding the Human body, I learned that FAT has very less to do with what we eat and has more to do with Stress and the flow of Life.
How we see life determines how our body flows and behaves. Stress is created by conflicting ideas we have about life.
Bottom Line…Less stress = less fat. I should call it the “Chill out Diet”.
So, here I am… I’ve decided to remind and encourage people to live their best lives; See how simple and enjoyable life really is.
I want you to know, YOU…are AWESOME. We all just need a reminder sometime.
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